Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Novel Story - Four lessons of the Titanic, you can prepare this a disaster in the face of life

It was shortly before noon 10th April 1912 RMS Titanic sailed from Southampton's Dock. The crew and passengers on board were pleased to make the historic journey across the Atlantic from England to North America. However, no one could imagine that the ship that "God himself could not sink" would cause such a catastrophe. In recent years, the "Titanic" has the imagination of many people such as Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet has captured the history of life in the award-winning Hollywood blockbuster. While working in difficult situations in life we can learn many different stories on the pages of history. In this article we will explore one of the world's most famous maritime disasters in the history of the RMS Titanic.
The Titanic is the sad story tells how the biggest ship that punctured ever at this point (883 feet long built, 92 meters wide and 64 feet high crashed from keel to the top of the weather deck) with an iceberg, the hull below the waterline. About 2 hours and 40 minutes later the ship sank in the icy North Atlantic waters.
Three important issues for a large ship Following the sinking of the Titanic, two separate investigations were launched, one by the British and the other from the Americans. Investigators have powerful three questions, "asked why this disaster happen?", "What can we learn?" And "How can we avoid a similar catastrophe?
Why did it happen catastrophe? The first question to ask, the people usually in the event of a disaster, "Why did this happen?" If this question on the "Titanic" was asked, is to blame pointed to five different people. The first was Captain EJ Smith, ignored the warnings of several iceberg and not to reduce the vessel speed. The second was the builder of the ship, because he apparently iron rivets, which were not strong enough and had used "n" not "the impact of the iceberg when it passed. Bruce Ismay, managing director of the White Star Line struck, was the third person, which has been criticized because it was believed that had encouraged Captain Smith to maintain boat speed dangerous. architect Thomas Andrews vessels has also been accused because he is not sufficiently developed sixteen watertight compartments height was in the walls. The ultimate responsibility was Captain Stanley Lord, who his ship had sent Californian, close to the Titanic, but will not respond to the emergency flares, since he decided that rockets were linked to celebrations on board the Titanic.
The negative power of the "Why" One of the first reactions we have when we are facing a difficult situation is to ask: "Why am I this?" The reason why we ask, "Why?" It is the insatiable needs, the meaning behind the events that happen to satisfy interpret around us. The "why" question is like a double-edged sword, it can produce constructive feedback and positive feelings, or it can produce devastating and irrational thoughts, that you pull down. If you ask in a negative mental state and are: "Why is this happening to me?" The possible answers could be:

    
* "Because God hates me"
    
* "Because I am a failure"
    
* "Because I attract disaster"
    
* "Because the world is against me"
    
* "Because the others do not care about me"
    
* "Because I useless"
All the above show a mental state with negative thoughts that can not be substantiated by evidence. These types of thoughts are called irrational thoughts, because they deprive any form of logic. Following this way of thinking, a person feels depressed, worthless, hopeless, and have no motivation to look for possible solutions. There are other questions to the question. Problems that people can see a sense of hope, but first, like the "why" question can be used in a positive way.
The positive force, why A positive result of asking "why" question that can help us to prevent future disasters. Many successful people, like Henry Ford, Walt Disney, was Debbie Reynolds, Larry King and Donald Trump a negative experience in their lives. Each of these people have learned from their experiences and pushed to new heights of success. If you are in the midst of a difficult situation for the "why" question can be used to learn from mistakes and to move his.
Two questions that can fill with hope There are two questions that will help you focus on solutions and forward can. These questions are what and how. Here are some examples of how to use these questions, help you feel may be inspired.
WHAT

    
* "What am I to be grateful?
    
* "What can I learn from this?"
    
* "What can I do to reverse this situation?"
    
* "What is the next logical step for me?"
    
* "What do I do next?"

HOW

    
* "How do I manage the next step?"
    
* "How can I speed the process?
    
* "How can I process more fun?
    
* "How could it be otherwise if I have this action?
    
* "How can handle this situation?"
provides answers to these questions can provide valuable information in the hope of preventing similar disasters in the future, to learn from mistakes, regain confidence and plan your future.
How can we prevent such a disaster? When investigators asked, "What?" and "How?" They made the following recommendations to the maritime industry. These four recommendations advice very practical and can be used to help us the difficult situation that we have in our own lives.
Lifeboats sufficient The first recommendation was that the investigators have enough lifeboats for all vessels. The Titanic was about 2214 passengers on board lifeboats, but only enough for 1178 people. A sad reality of the disaster that only 705 passengers and crew survived is many of the lifeboats were not saturated.
The lesson here is to build support process in your life. Anything that inspires you and gives you emotional support can be considered as a lifeboat. With the support of friends, who do spiritual guidance, read books, inspiration, music, sports, hobbies, and / or interested in activities such as hiking, are examples of boats rescue personnel.
A common mistake many make is to leave on a lifeboat. The danger is that if something happens to them, a lifeboat, they are not the emotional support and can easily fall into depression. One example I heard recently from a woman named Carla (not her real name). Carla has been devoted to a particular sport, but she had a serious accident and injured knee. When Carla was told that the injury would take six months to heal, she burst into tears because she thought it would not be in a position, his favorite sport. Carla was the only activity of his life brought him joy is lost. Also a man named Kevin, who was devoted to reading, had a severe stroke that left him half blind. Its not read He felt exhausted by the very activity that has the strength. A solution to this problem is to grow multiple sources of pleasure. If an activity is suddenly removed, you can use other sources to keep you afloat.
Security exercises The second recommendation was that all crew members and passengers participate in safety drills. Even if struck an iceberg is a very real danger during their trip, the crew aboard the Titanic not sufficiently trained to handle an event of this magnitude. If you will be what you are most familiar in the middle of a stressful situation, your automatic response. You have what comes naturally. Safety drills people the means to the same dangerous situations repeatedly until the correct answer will be second nature to experience.
In this spirit, what some do in your life that have become second nature? What should be a routine part of your life? To this question you answer all aspects of your life must be considered. The areas of your life must be constantly updated their physical health and wellness, emotional well-being, mental stimulation, spiritual renewal, and reassurance. The consideration of all aspects of our lives, here is a list of some things that I have become second nature:

    
* Maintain a healthy diet
    
* Planning the entire exercise of my week
    
* With a laugh every day
    
* Play Sudoku
    
* Take time to enjoy a hobby
    
* Time of the quality of spending with my wife
    
* Enjoy activities with friends
These activities have become second nature to me and has helped me to manage many crises. The key to maintaining a healthy balance in life is the consistency. small activities that are carried out each day to remain the key afloat during difficult times.
Radios vessels must be monitored full-time
A third recommendation is that all radio is manned 24 hours a day boat. The passengers had been aboard the Titanic saved if the radio operator aboard the California Manning had been on the radio and heard the emergency calls. Communication is key in all successful efforts of life. When America launched a military intervention in Afghanistan and Iraq, the first thing the army has been targeted communications. This shows the importance that communication plays.
The lesson we learn here is to stay in contact with other people. When a crisis occurs, you, you can call for advice? Here are some tips to keep the communication channels and to develop healthy friendships:

    
* Development of friendships around common interests such as sports or recreation.
    
* The important dates such as birthdays and anniversaries remembered.
    
* Learn to listen to people without interruption.
    
* Use eye contact when you are with people.
    
* Regular meetings with your closest friends Hold.
    
* Ask your friends call you periodically during the time, you under pressure.
    
* Say Sorry for those, you're wrong.
    
* Speak words of encouragement to all who come into contact.
    
* Help with a consultant, coach or support person.
Here are some quotes to illustrate the importance of the relationship:
"My best friend the one who brings out the best in me."
- Henry Ford
"What makes loneliness an fear is not that I have no one to share my burden, but this: I have to bear my own burdens."
- Dag Hammarskjold
"A friend is someone who, when others go on vacation"
Walter Winchell-
"The greatest part of his life is his friendships."
Abraham Lincoln -
Maintain an open and honest communication with key people in your life so that they assist you in times of need. The worst thing you can do is smile and pretend everything is OK. A false impression will not help you. to be honest with the most important people in your life and not feel too proud to send an emergency call.
Reduce the speed on impact of ice or Foggy
One of the first things the investigation it was found that the speed played an important role in the disaster. Collision with the iceberg could have been avoided if the Titanic had a much slower speed. So the final recommendation of the survey that the ships should have a much slower speed to travel in conditions of ice or fog.
Fog can be a symbol of times in our lives that we do not think clearly. After going through the events that happen around you, it is unwise to hasty decisions, overcome to make because to limit the high loads your thinking process. The lesson here is to get time for important decisions, while one can stand in the middle of a crisis. Find friends for advice before any major action.
Summary As we have seen, there are many things we can do to manage difficult situations. We discussed the power to make the right kind of questions: "What?" And "How?" Which have the most effective. We then examined four lessons to help us in difficult times. These include:

    
* After a lot of things are in force, to emotional support
    
* The implementation of routines for maintaining a healthy balance
    
* Having healthy relationships and open communication ....
    
* Take time to take important decisions in times of crisis

Postscript The worst thing you can do in the middle of a disaster There is one final lesson we can learn from the Titanic disaster, "deny the reality of the crisis will not keep your ship afloat. A mood of negation, such as:" Everything is OK, this ship is unsinkable, the situation is not better . make Denial creates a blind spot that the person can lead a recipe for disaster. The player says "I'm OK, I'll win it all again, I just need to take a risk again, this time the Great is." Then he finds himself driven into the street with a broken marriage, bankruptcy, no feeling of hope for the future. This is the result of a blind spot, that by denying he had a problem with the game, when the crew of the Titanic has the responsibility for the evacuation of the passengers expected in has been created, the timely and proper, instead of acting in denial, have much to more people have been rescued from the icy death.
Hope is here no matter what situation you are now in front, there are always opportunities to keep you afloat. Recognition of the problem for what it is and take measures by with the help and support. A comprehensive guide is for people going through hard times available, and sad or down. This manual was written by a clinical social work consultant and has excellent strategies to help them through difficult times. You can get more information http://www.overcoming-depression.info

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